You are not obligated to say YESDec 07, 2022
Did you know that you are not obligated to say yes to anyone?
Even if you always have said yes, you are allowed to start saying no.
- Gosh, thanks for including me, but I'm not going to be able to join you.
- Thanks for thinking of me, but I don't have room in my calendar for that.
- Love that charity, but I've already committed my donations for this month.
- No thanks.
- I have plans that afternoon.
- I am committed to creating space for rest and ease this holiday and so I'm really limiting how much I socialize, or volunteer, or agree to host, or which traditions I am continuing...
You get the gist right?
We often say YES when we want to say NO because we want others to like us.
Or we want to belong.
Or we want to please another.
Or we worry about what others will say.
But, here's the thing.
We are betraying ourselves if we deny what we really want.
And saying yes is actually lying.
Yup. it's a lie if we don't really mean it.
So, I have a dare for you.
Would you be game to say No to one thing you often say Yes to, but don't enjoy, or value, or have time or money for? Just one thing. Baby steps.
And, if you answer YES to that, would you be game to share with me what you say No to?
I'd love to share our collective No's anonymously, so we can support each other in being honest, real, truth tellers, and normalize saying No. (And of course you can say NO to me... aahhh the irony.)
No. Nope. No sir. Nada. Um, that's a no. No way. No thank you.
P.S. If you want help with any of this, let's chat. Helping women get off the YES train is something I adore doing!