Are you hiding?
Feb 06, 2024![](https://kajabi-storefronts-production.kajabi-cdn.com/kajabi-storefronts-production/file-uploads/blogs/2147502533/images/7d86518-8b-b402-2dd8-f56c62226755_woman-2696408_1280.jpeg)
Opportunities can not find their way to you if they don't know you are looking for them.
Opportunities within your organization and external to your organization.
I was taught, 'It's not what you know, it's who you know.'
And, that isn't actually accurate.
it's actually "It's not who you know, it's who knows you."
I have learned this over my last five years of self employment. Initially I just thought my talents and skills would lead to a full practice. But gradually I realized I had to put myself out there. I had to promote my skills. I had to tell people (lots of them) what I did. I had to get over wondering what others were thinking when I boldly stated, "I know I can help you." I had to stop hiding and waiting to "be discovered." I had to lead with what I taught - embracing discomfort,
The number one cause of missing out on opportunities is hiding.
And hiding comes in many forms.
- Not self promoting (does that make you cringe?)
- Engaging in invisible work
- Assuming others see your contribution and value.
- Worrying that you aren't qualified for a job you desire so not applying
- No LinkedIn presence
- Staying quiet in meetings
- Not telling your boss of your long term aspirations
- Not actively networking even before you are ready to make the leap
- Not telling everyone you know that you are looking for work
- Only applying to jobs where you meet 90% of the desired qualifications
- Telling yourself you would be putting another out by asking to have an informational interview with them
- Justifying staying where you are even when you know you are meant for more
- Focussing on your fear of making a mistake, looking foolish, getting out of your lane, instead of stretching, learning, contributing
I coach a lot on hiding.
I coach women who don't want to be seen as braggarts.
I coach women who have been good students who often keep their heads down and get the job done assuming others will take note and promotions will follow.
I coach women who talk themselves out of reach jobs
I coach women who worry what others will think
I coach women who are kind, team oriented, and doers, sometimes to a fault.
I was this woman so I know how to coach these women.
If you are ready to pivot, get promoted, launch a business you must embrace getting visible. There is no way around it.
I coach women how to do this with femininity, leaning into their strengths, through relationship building, letting go of people pleasing, and accepting the inevitable discomfort - in fact, running toward the discomfort.
If you know that your hiding is holding you back, book a free one hour chat with me to assess where you are and where you want to be and let me offer some suggestions for getting you from before to after.